Kyron Kruger Unfiltered: Life as a male adult content creator

Is being an online star all it’s cracked up to be? Kyron Kruger sat down with our Social Media Manager Matt Lang to talk adult content creation, what his DMs look like, and what he really thinks about the male loneliness epidemic. Watch the full video above or scroll down to get the highlights – as well as the sex toys that are always part of his toolkit!

Note: the text below has been edited for brevity and clarity.

Meet Kyron Kruger

Matthew Lang: How would you describe yourself in terms of what you do?

Kyron Kruger: I am a content creator and I work in the adult industry. I also work as a model but obviously the modeling I do is a little bit more alternative. I originally sort of started in the fetish world and did a lot of like kink content. Things just sort of really grew from there.

Kyron Kruger on sex toys

Did you have a lot of experience with sex toys before you modeled for us

KK: Oh yeah, I’ve used them. Yeah, obviously. I mean they’re an ally, not an enemy. I find sex toys so… it’s one of those funny things? Some people get a bit like intimidated by bringing them into the bedroom and then think it’s a bit of an attack on their masculinity. My priority has always been that everyone has a good time, not just me. So sex toys for me have always been a tool rather than, you know, a threat.

So, if you had to pick your favourite tools, what would they be?

KK: Oh, I mean I love a wand. A wand is always helpful. I like a little… like I’m a bit kinky, I guess? So I like some hand cuffs and maybe some collars and gags and stuff like that. They’re usually in my tool kit.

Read more: Bondage 101 – Restraints Cuffs and Safety by David Hollingworth.

Talk to us about a wand massager because so many men look at that and go “I don’t know what to do with that”.

KK: Penetrative sex isn’t the be all and end all and won’t always help them achieve orgasm. So whether that’s, you know, clitoral stimulation, or like playing with people’s nipples, or any other sensory areas of your body. That can heighten the experience.

So yeah it’s I guess it’s just adding some extra stimulation to other parts of the body.

Is there a sex toy you’d recommend every man should try?

KK: I think every man should try a butt plug at least once. Like my thing is you don’t you don’t know until you try it.

ML: Yep

KK: And try everything twice in case you didn’t do it right the first time.

Read more: An introduction to sex toys for men.

Okay. Lube recs. Got any?

KK: I think it’s called Wet Stuff, the brand I use? I use silicone a lot but I also use the water-based one as well. I mean it just I guess it depends. Silicone based can be can stain and get stuck in quite a few things whereas water based is sort of easier to get out of things.

ML: But then you have to keep wetting it or putting more on.

KK: Yeah, there’s benefits to both, but it really is situational on what you’re doing.

Being a male adult content creator

How did you get into creating adult content? How did that journey happen?

KK: It was never really intentional. I never set out to be an adult star or anything like that. I was just making my own little Instagram effectively to meet other people like me. And then it sort of snowballed from there. I had photographers and companies starting to reach out. Like it wasn’t like overnight by any means. It’s probably going on six or seven years.

And then I found myself in an industry that which I love. I’ve sort of always been sort of around people that worked in industry, but yeah it was never a plan. I just sort of found myself here.

Part of being in the adult industry is often body image, physique – looking a certain way. How much work does it take to build and maintain your body?

KK: I go to the gym probably five to six times a week. And that’s not entirely for my vanity, which I mean, a big part of it is. Everyone wants to look good naked. But I also I do it for my mental health and stuff like that. But obviously there is an element where you’re seeing me with not much clothes on, if not any.  And you want to look good and that’s a part of what I do. You have to sort of appeal to the gaze of your your audience.

One of the things that we do see with younger men is there’s a perception that being an adult content creator is going to be glamorous and wouldn’t it be great to get paid for sex? Is it great?

KK: I think I worked really hard to get this this point. It’s not all what people think it is. There’s a lot and it’s also a lot harder for men to make this viable as a career. There is a gender pay gap! Women will make more than us and that’s something you have to accept and you might have to work harder than a lot of people do to make it a viable career.

In the early days it was tough for me. Like trying to be consistent and getting that audience and might get lucky and get something that gets you some popularity quickly but it is a lot about respect and people will check references. So they will reach out to other people I’ve worked with to see what I was like and go by that. So, you’ve really got to make sure you do the right thing by everyone the best you can.

A comment I hear from male content creators that is that no matter what they do they get a lot more attention than they expect from men. Is that something you can relate to?

KK: Yeah. I guess that’s where most of the the money comes from – our male followers. But that’s not necessarily true all the time. I have a lot of female followers and diverse followers who contribute to, you know, maybe purchasing or subscribing or whatever it is.

But yeah, I would say there’s a large percentage who are male that engage and want to engage with you.

You’ve made content about it, but what’s your non-Insta take on the male loneliness epidemic?

 

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KK: I mean it is a strange one because I’ve sort of like taken the piss out of it a little bit and saying that the reason there is a male loneliness epidemic is because of people like me.

ML: Everyone you heard it here.

KK: But it I think a lot of women are just sort of taking charge and not accepting the status quo.  There is a part of me that feels a bit empathetic to particularly young men growing up who all the internet all they see is about how awful men are. This stuff can polarise people and that’s why we get to this point where everyone’s at opposite ends of the spectrum and no one’s willing to come together and meet and make compromises and listen to each other.

And even like with… you know we say make the content about like clickbaity stuff? Sometimes we are feeding into that a little bit and I think you got to be really careful about just creating more anger and and sort of hate on the internet.

With collaboration and content creation, how does it affect dating?

KK: It can be tough. I’m quite fortunate that I sort of date people who are quite accepting of that. My peers who are women have a lot of problems with this. Like guys who idolise the fact that they’re in the industry, but then once they’re in a relationship or like actually no, I don’t want you to do this anymore. Like, well, you knew this all along, and now things have gotten serious, you want me to take a step back? And this is my livelihood. This is my independence that you want to take away because you’re a little bit insecure about it?

And I always find that they’re more worried about what people externally think of them than what their actual their partner thinks?

If your DMs were a zoo, what animals would be in there right now?

KK: Wow. I mean, some snakes, some lizards. My DMs are interesting at times. Sometimes there’s lovely things and then sometimes people are just giving me information that I don’t really need to know.

ML: Yep. No, we get that, too.

KK: A lot of people just like shooting their shot, I guess.

ML: You should chat to our customer service team one day.

KK: Yeah, that would be interesting ’cause that would be funny. Because you’re clearly a brand. Like, who do they think they’re talking to? At least with me, they think they’re talking to – well they are talking to me. I do find it funny. I’ve even had similar things with photographers and clearly they’re shooting with different people every time? But people engage with them thinking that they’re the one of the people in their photos?

ML: Yes! I’ve seen that.

KK: Like that’s like clearly a photo. And even sometimes me! I’ve shot with like you know various women and performers and they message me as if they’re talking to the person that I’ve shot with. And I’m like can you see the common thing throughout these videos is that I’m
in all of them? That means it’s probably me.

Kyron Kruger on sex – and consent

What is the difference between sex for content and sex in real life?

KK: I think um sex for content is very performative. So there’s certain angles or you know, sounds and things that are done for the camera and or even a certain view that you’re trying to get. I think the main part is probably a little bit more intimate and that connection you feel. Like people need to remember we are putting on a performance. That’s not how we all have sex all the time!

Whether that’s just sex or it’s fetish or anything like that, everything should be discussed beforehand. What our boundaries are. What we’re comfortable with and what we’re not comfortable with. There’s like there’s always been like really strong chats about consent leading up and leading into and also just checking in throughout which is a huge thing. People don’t realise as an industry we probably do the most to ensure everyone’s consenting and checking in and making sure everyone’s feeling comfortable throughout the process.

So on that because that is a really big topic. What does that sort of sound like? Like a pre-scene conversation?

Originally there’s a conversation when they’ll reach out and generally I’m like, “Okay like what are you looking to film? Have you got any specific things that you want to get out of this shoot? What are you comfortable with? What like you know what do you want to do? What you can’t you do? Is there anything you don’t like?” It could be as far as like words and things that you call them.

I don’t really like to start a shoot until I know exactly what the layout of the shoot is, because you would hate to get sort of halfway in and be like, “Okay, I don’t really want to do this,” and then have to pivot. And we will stop and check in. The video you might see might be flowing, but there probably has been periods where we’ve stopped, started, checked in to see how everything’s going, and continued on.

But yeah, like the consent piece is a huge part of industry. Particularly me as like a male, that’s hugely important for me. I’ve got the privilege that these people trust me and allow me to to do these things with them and create this content. So, it’s something that I really have to make sure that I’m really on top of. But it’s also just a thing I think as men in particular we have to be on top of consent and checking in and making sure everyone’s enthusiastically um enjoying and involved in the process.

ML: Yeah. Well, there you go, guys. Consent. Do it.

Read more: How to make consent sexy by Amy Louise.

If you were going to give young guys advice about sex, dating, what have you, what would your advice to them be?

KK: Being communicative about what you want and being clear and honest and not and I guess not feeling shame about things. Like I think growing up, I felt a lot of stigma and shame about some of the things that I enjoyed. And there’s going to be people that might, you know, turn their noses away, but at the end of the day they’re not really the people you want to be around. And obviously listening to [your partner]. You don’t want to be one of those people that thrusts your desires on someone and aren’t really listening to what they what they’re looking for. And also just accepting that maybe things aren’t between you, that’s not what they’re looking for. And that’s okay.

So much goes back to having open chats about consent. If you’re open and honest and clear, in the long run you’ll find what you’re what you’re looking for. And I guess have a much better relationship with sex as well.

One last question. It’s a silly one. If there was a sex Olympics, what would you win gold for?

KK: Oh my god. Wow. I’ve had people give feedback on my content that they love watching me go in missionary. Which I think is bizarre because it is one of the more, I guess, vanilla positions? I think I have a good butt. So, I guess the thrusting motion of my bum is what is what people enjoy about it? So I guess I would be in like the 100 meter missionary.

ML: Okay. Everyone look out for Kyron Kruger’s butt. You know where to find him.

Wait, where can people find you online?

I have a few different handles. So I have the_kyron_kruger on Instagram or king_kruger_. And yeah, I’m on I’m on Tik Tok and X as well. And there’s links and stuff there if you want to get to know me.