Eva by Dame Reviewed: A Couples’ Toy that Understands Sex

As a sexologist I always get asked about toys. Specifically toys that can join the party during partnered sex. And straight up the Eva 2 by Dame really understands sex.

But before I get to the toy let’s look at that question.

Getting stuck on sex toys

A lot of couples are curious about sex toys but get stuck at the same point. They want more pleasure, more ease, and more connection. But they fear that introducing toys will turn sex into a production. And that’s totally valid. Being worried about sex becoming awkward, kind of funny, or getting distracted is normal. It means you don’t want to get pulled out of the moment. And if toys dial up the difficulty, they become a hurdle, rather than adding pleasure. In fact, I get told all the time that people often – or always – use toys on their own, but almost never with a partner.

I love helping people navigate the discussion around sex toys with playfulness and ease. Boosting their confidence with toys means they’ll probably have a better first time with them during partnered play.

Read more: Getting started with sex toys for couples by Kate Manning.

But the fear of awkwardness stands out to me. What are we all so afraid of? When we try new things, they might be funny. Or awkward. Or a bit weird. And that’s not something to be afraid of. If we’re a bit more willing to experience all of that, we might just find something great at the other end.

And the point of this is: you’re allowed to look at a sex toy and think, ‘why does this look like a tiny robot bug?’

Eva first impressions: cute, weird, and unintimidating

I laughed when I first saw the Eva 2 Wearable Vibrator. Genuinely.

The Eva doesn’t look like a traditional vibrator. It doesn’t look particularly sexy. It looks… curious. And honestly, kind of cute. A tiny silicone creature that might scuttle off your bedside table if you’re not watching. When it arrived I posted on my Instagram stories and was flooded with messages; mostly jokes about what kind of cartoon robot noises it might make.

And that’s part of the magic. I can’t explain it but I warmed to the Eva. I reckon it’s because it lowers the stakes. Like, I don’t have to get into my ‘hot and sexy’ persona, you know? It also immediately breeds curiosity – I have never ripped open a package so fast in my life!

And guess what I discovered? Only the cutest little space-agey charging case I’ve ever seen. It looks like my Eva has a little home – I mean look!

The Eva is small, soft, and flexible, made from medical-grade silicone that feels lovely on the skin. When I say small, I mean small, and light as well. My favourite part are those little arms sticking out the side of its body. They’re there to tuck under the labia and help it stay in place, which is genius but also looks adorable.

My experience with the Eva

I tried the Eva with my partner first, but I’m jumping ahead. Even charging it was fun. I brought it into the lounge room to show my partner, flashing away in its little space age case. It charged with us while we watched MAFS.

Anyway, I digress!

We went to bed to see what the Eva could do. The first thing I noticed was it had just 3 simple vibration settings – soft, medium, and hard. And that was such as pleasant surprise. I never use those those morse code patterns. Does anyone, really? 3 speeds was so easy to use. And it had really powerful vibration through the top (the head?) of the toy and down the arms. I started with the medium setting and popped her on. Or is it in? Anyway, I tucked the labia over the top of the arms and she was snugly in place. I got out of bed and stood up to test and she stayed put! Hilarious.

There is something to really be said for the vibrating arms. A lot of wonderful nerve endings – and therefore pleasure – live along the inner and outer lips. And they’re  massively underrated. Vibrators are often designed to be focused on clitoral and/or internal stimulation and it’s nice to have a different experience. Exploring different pressures was also fun because of how soft the Eva’s silicone body is. I tried pushing the toy up towards the clitoris, or pushing the arms out wider, just to explore different sensations along with different body positions.

Remember to explore

I’ve written before about the benefits of taking our time with sensation in order to drop into the body, and that’s where I think the Eva really shines. After getting the Eva into place I lay with my eyes closed for a few minutes and concentrated on the sensations and my breath while my partner touched my body. Next time, I’d like to do that for a lot longer. I’d also be open to trying it on my own. This was incredibly grounding, quite quickly in fact, and I really felt my body relax in that moment. Plus my partner gets to watch me in pleasure, one of his favourite pastimes. Double win, really.

Why the Eva actually works for couples

A lot of couples’ toys are designed as if bodies don’t move, sweat, or change angles. The Eva feels like it was designed by someone who has actually had sex!

You still get skin-to-skin contact because it sits externally. It doesn’t wedge between your bodies. You can still grind, rock, shift, and move. And you don’t have to negotiate around a chunky device.

And because it’s hands-free, no one has to suddenly become the Official Toy Holder. This is not only convenient – it increases accessibility. A lot of my clients are women in perimenopause or menopause. And one of the common difficulties these women experience? Frozen shoulder; a little known but very common experience at this life stage. Holding a toy can be pretty much impossible for these women, as well as for many other people with varying accessibility and mobility needs. Toys that increase access to pleasure? Say less.

Introducing toys without killing the vibe

If you’re thinking about bringing something like the Eva into your relationship, here’s my top tips:

• Sharing resources – like this article – can open conversations! Send it to your partner, along with a link to the toy and a winky face emoji. You’re welcome.
• Embrace the silly. Instead of trying to make things perfectly smooth, seamless and sexy – embrace the awkward! Laugh! It’s meant to be fun, remember.
• The Eva is perfect for pressure-free exploration. Don’t feel the need to jump straight to penetration. Make out, touch each other. Keep her in during oral sex – both giving and receiving.
• Explore, and be curious.

For many couples, using a toy like this can:

• Reduce pressure to perform
• Normalise clitoral stimulation during partnered sex
• Encourage communication and check-ins
• Remind you that sex can be playful again

Final thoughts

The Eva is a lovely reminder that pleasure with toys can be light, connective, and great fun. Laughter, curiosity, discovery – perhaps even fumbling around a bit – are all normal parts of real, embodied sex. If you’re a couple wanting to experiment with toys that are relaxed, easy to use, and multiuse – this toy is designed to support pleasure without getting in the way of connection. A beautiful place to start your exploration.