What to do after anal sex

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Congratulations, you’ve just joined the butt club! Or maybe you’ve been a part of the gang for a while. Either way, if you’re wanting to have the best possible anal experience, remember that the experience doesn’t end with an orgasm (if you’re lucky enough to have one). 

To avoid any complications, and make sure you and your partner leave the experience feeling happy, safe, and satisfied, there are a few after-anal care practices we recommend!

1. Clean up

The number one rule? Don’t cross-contaminate. 

Once anal play is over, make sure you clean all areas and tools thoroughly before going back for more. Nobody wants a UTI. You can wipe your areas clean with baby wipes (tip: keep a box on your bedside table) or jump in the shower or bath together for a more romantic and thorough job. The Vush Clean Queen Intimate Accessory Spray is perfect for this as it is suitable for sensitive skin, and protects and refreshes your toys.

2. Go to the toilet

Like vaginal sex, it’s a good idea to go to the toilet after sex and do a wee – this helps prevent UTIs.

3. Check for any tears

Occasionally, you might experience some bleeding from your rectum. This could be the result of an anal tear, a small fissure in the anal canal, and these usually heal in a few days (you might experience some discomfort while pooping, too). But if your bleeding doesn’t stop within about an hour it’s time to see your doctor. No need to be embarrassed. Just go!

4. Check in with your partner

Especially if it’s your first time! 

In fact, you should be keeping the communication up before, during and after anal, regardless of whether it’s your first or 50th time.

Communication is key to making sure you and your partner enjoy the experience, but it shouldn’t finish when the physical act is over. Make sure to check in with your partner, talk about the experience – what felt good and what you didn’t love, how you feel physically, mentally and emotionally, and what you need now, after the act, to feel safe, satisfied and content.

5. Practice aftercare

A key concept in the BDSM community, aftercare is the time and attention you give to your partner after sex. While it’s big in the bondage community, we think it should be practised after all kinds of sex. 

In addition to checking in on your partner’s emotional and mental state, aftercare might involve cuddling up in bed with a warm blanket and lots of pillows, eating a snack, giving each other a massage and just generally being there for each other and doing things that feel good.

So, there you have it!

Everything you need to know about what to do after having anal sex. Keep these suggestions in mind after your next anal experience to make sure you have a safe, healthy and fun time. Enjoy!

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